Woman tells court Wellington musician raped her while another man was in bed

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Warning – This article discusses details of rape and sexual assault

The second complainant to testify against a Wellington man accused of rape says she was assaulted while another man was in the bed.

The 25-year-old musician, who has name suppression, has pleaded not guilty to four charges of rape, two of unlawful sexual connection and two of indecent assault.

In video evidence at Wellington District Court today, the woman alleged the defendant raped her while she was drunk and trying to sleep.

She said they had met a while before the incident and messaged now and then on Instagram.

They bumped into each other while drinking in town that night.

She later walked with the defendant’s friend to a flat where the defendant was, arriving about 4.30am.

Woman says sleeping over did not mean agreeing to sex

The complainant said the defendant was insistent that she stay over, and that it was too late for her to walk home.

“I didn’t want him to think that I was staying over what an invitation to have sex, or an agreement to have sex, which is why I initially declined because that’s usually the intention behind asking that,” she said.

“I wanted to clarify with him whether he had that in mind, and so I told him no, that I was just tired and drunk and that I would stay as long as he didn’t think that anything was going to happen between us.

“And I said, you know, not right now or not tonight.”

She said she agreed to have a “little sleep” before walking home, and he led her into a bedroom where another man slept – which made her feel reassured nothing would happen. She removed her pants and they got into bed.

The pair were spooning when the defendant allegedly began raping her later pressing his hand on her mouth and telling her to be quiet.

She said she did not wake the other man in the bed because she did not know if he would join in, whether that would make the defendant stop, or how he would react.

“So I just decided to wait until it was over.”

The complainant described it as rough, hurried and painful.

“He was having sex with me whether I was a person inside there or not.

“He saw an avenue to get himself off and that was what he was doing.”

She said she was not making noise or actively participating – but she was not resisting, worried he would get angry and accuse her of leading him on.

“It felt far easier to let it happen.”

She left after he fell asleep and he messaged her later asking if she got home safely.

She said she replied “sad and sound”.

Complainant felt like she let it happen

The woman said at the time she blamed herself for what happened.

She said before the alleged rape, she was excited the defendant might be interested in her, and that it “seemed like a nice end to the night”.

But afterwards, she said she felt empty.

“I kept thinking about how much more I could have done to stop it from happening and how, when it did happen, all I could think about what of course he didn’t just mean going to sleep, of course he would be.. .he would be taking me taking my pants off as an invitation.

“All I could think was how I had done this horrible thing to myself.

“I felt defeated, like I’d failed.

“I was in pain… I felt gross… ashamed, ashamed and dirty.”

Gaps in complainant’s memory

Like other witnesses and the first complainant the court had already heard from, the woman said there were parts of the night she struggled to remember.

“I’ve always had a very interesting memory with traumatic events, or times that I get incredibly overstimulated, I guess.

“It’s like I can, I can feel it there but I just can’t, can’t see it.”

She said she did not usually “black out” from drinking but that could have played a part.

Due to technical issues causing delays at court, the second complainant was not questioned by the Crown or defense today.

The trial continues tomorrow.

Where to get help if you are affected:

NZ Police

Victim Support 0800 842 846

Rape Crisis 0800 88 33 00

Rape Prevention Education

Empowerment Trust

HELP Call 24/7 (Auckland): 09 623 1700, (Wellington): 04 801 6655 – push 0 at the menu

Safe to talk: a 24/7 confidential helpline for survivors, support people and those with harmful sexual behaviour: 0800044334

Male Survivors Aotearoa

Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP) 022 344 0496

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