My bully boyfriend controls what time I go to bed

DEIDRE LOVE: My friend told me to “close” the house at 10 p.m. because he has to sleep.

I’m 49 and nobody has told me to go to bed at a specific time in 35 years!

The truth is he's a bit of a bully - and he told me the house must be silent as soon as he goes to bed

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The truth is he’s a bit of a bully – and he told me the house must be silent as soon as he goes to bed

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He’s 54 and we’ve been living together for six months after dating for two years.

He can be nice, but he also has a temper, talks about me in arguments and can never see my point of view.

He’s turning it all up so I seem wrong.

The truth is he’s a bit of a bully. I could cope with this until he told me that the house must be dark and silent when he goes to bed.

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I’m not allowed to watch TV, make phone calls or read a book.

Should i leave him?

DEIDRE SAYS: This is classic control behavior.

It sounds insulting and I’m afraid it will likely only get worse.

My support package, Abusive Partner, gives you the tools you need to get help and get out of it.

Call the National Domestic Violence Helpline (nationaldahelpline.org.uk, 0808 2000 247).

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