Keeping My Mother Alive For A Weekend Nearly Killed Me

My mother is hazardous to my health.

I’m not exaggerating when I say anytime I have contact with her, it affects my health negatively: my blood pressure and anxiety spike, and I have digestive issues, headaches, and chest pains.

Though she’s never been diagnosed, she shows all the signs of being a narcissist as she lacks empathy, is manipulative, requires constant attention, and is extremely controlling.

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I should have remembered how difficult it was to be around her before I volunteered to take care of her for the weekend.

For some reason, her recent health changes didn’t register with me. I’d initially volunteered to play the part of caretaker before my mother fell and needed 24-hour care.

Before my mother’s fall, two sisters shared the job of taking care of her and worked Monday through Friday from 9 AM to 4:30 OPM. My mother had no weekend care because she could still walk, cook for herself, and use the bathroom.

Then one morning, before the caregivers started their shift, my mother stood by the kitchen counter and reached out to grab her glass of water and fell.

She crawled to her living room and waited for her neighbor across the street to come outside. Once the woman came out to get her morning paper, my mother banged on her window to get the neighbor’s attention. The neighbor came over and helped my mother get back into bed.

The fall wasn’t bad enough to injure my mother, but it was enough of a wake-up call for her to realize that her ability to care for herself was over. She could afford round-the-clock care, and that’s what she got. Now her two caretakers worked 7 days a week, 24 hours a day.


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