Caught my husband in bed with the neighbour | Tell Me Pastor

Dear Pastor,

I am 43 years old and I never thought that I would need your help. I am married and I have problems with my husband.

I went out to help my sister who was not doing well and that day I came back to catch my neighbor who is supposed to be my best friend in my bed with my husband.

I couldn’t believe my eyes. I told my husband that I wasn’t sure I would get home, but I never had evidence that my husband and boyfriend were having an affair. We are like sisters. She is not married and therefore always at home with me. When I cook, I sometimes call her over to eat. She does not work. She has no children either. This woman is a great woman. She is older than me. She depends on her brother who is in America to support her. Pastor, these people were in the house and they didn’t even lock the door. I didn’t expect to see anything like what I saw. They were naked and my husband is begging me to forgive him for being the one who forced herself on him. I asked him how she could do it in one day. He said that she always offered herself to him and he always resisted her. When I saw them together, the woman stood up naked in front of me as on the day she was born. She had no shame. I broke a bottle of beer and wanted to stab it, but my husband asked me if I was crazy. She put on her pants and ran out of the house. I am so disappointed in my husband. He let me down. I don’t know what to do with him so please give me your advice.


Dear TE,

I am sorry to know that your husband failed you. You trusted him and did not believe that he would have had sex with your neighbor, who is also your good friend.

I am a pastor so you may be surprised what I am about to tell you. When it comes to this relationship issue, you shouldn’t trust your spouse with anyone. Women are always looking for good men. Some women admire married men, and when they see a married man who is a good father, they wish to find such a man; and many would do anything to get this man. She did not invite her husband to her house because she was obviously afraid that someone would tell you he was going to her house.

But you were used to her coming to your house so that anyone who saw her wouldn’t say anything because this is like her second home. I do not think you are careless with your husband, but I think this woman is very worthless and your husband is very weak. He’s not starving for sex, but it was one of his weak moments and she got him to do what she wanted. Maybe she was tough because you say she isn’t married and maybe she doesn’t have a husband. I hope you don’t pull yourself back from your husband entirely because that’s what she wants you to do. However, I would say that you shouldn’t have sex with your man until you see a doctor and make sure that woman doesn’t pass a disease on to him. I know some people will say you should leave your husband. I don’t encourage you to, but please don’t be sloppy with your husband. I am glad you did not get into an argument with this woman. If you had cut it up, you could have been arrested. Let me hear what happens You and your husband should schedule an appointment with a family counselor. Please do this early.


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